The single life

I’m single.  I am in no rush to change my relationship status.  I don’t need sympathy or concern that I live a lonely life.  Nope.  I love it.

Sure, I go home by myself.  But after I’ve decided to work late, take a yoga class or a have dinner with a friend.  My weekend getaways are at own discretion.  Financial decisions require just a quick glance at the budget.  Vacations are easy as I can go wherever I’d like, and visit whoever I’d like to see.

It’s not a selfish lifestyle.  It’s one that more and more people in our society are choosing for themselves.

But in a society where single people outnumber those in couples, and divorce rates are extremely high, why do we still feel pity for single people?

Somewhere along the way, it became socially acceptable to ask single people why they are single? Or when they are going to get married.  Yet a single person would never ask a couple why they are choosing to get married.

In Morocco, I am noticing similar attitudes.  Sure I get asked why I’m not married.  If I even wanted to get married.  Or if I were married in the past.

But we are raised in a society filled with Disney princesses on the path to finding their prince charming. Now, it’s time we balance lifestyle choices in popular culture.  Maybe then, we’ll stop questioning a lifestyle more and more people are choosing.


In recent blog posts I’ve talked about how great it is to work at a university and see the students full of energy and passion.  It’s both inspiring and refreshing.  They would bring a fresh perspective to my life.  I would often meet people and think about how they are really “going places”.

Like Hilary!  Her well wishes are very sweet.  But what she may not know is that the support from great friends and colleagues like her really are important when making a life change.

And the amazing card she made me that included her mailing address?  Well it’s coming with me.  Because I think I may finally have found someone to share old-fashioned snail mail with.